Xmas Survival!
1: Xmas is an emotive time for everyone. The ghost of Xmas past, childhood memories and deep psychological issues can be stirred. Be aware of this and try not to react emotionally. If other people do not fulfil your needs or are snappy, embrace the Christmas message and act with unconditional love. Rub a white candle with oil and visualise unconditional love and peace fill the atmosphere.
Avoid emotional reactions. React only with unconditional love
2: If you are grieving someone who has past, lost a lover recently or feeling lonely. Know that this too shall pass and that Xmas is just another day. Go out and work for a charity for the day. Or be committed to nurturing and spoiling yourself with all your favourite foods. Buy a smudge stick ( sage wrapped in string which is used for purification) smudge your home and visualise all the past being cleared.
This is just like any other day. This too shall pass. Celebrate yourself and take it as a day to spoil you. Or give something back and help a charity over Xmas.
3: Xmas tends to conjure up very high expectations. We want everyone to be happy, the food to be perfect and the gifts just right. Remember the true message of Xmas and value each moment. Be gracious and grateful for the present not the fantasy. Let go of disappointment and embrace what is. Buy a rose quartz and carry it in your pocket. It is the unconditional love stone and will heal your heart if you feel hurt.
Let go of expectations. Do the best you can and make the most of the day even if you burn the turkey or Uncle Fred gets drunk. See the funny side of it rather than feel disappointed.
4: Emotions are catching, if you react with good humour and warmth it is sure to spread. If certain topics always cause rows – avoid them! Know your family or partner well enough to side step controversial subjects.
Avoid taboo topics and keep things neutral. Act with warmth and good humour.
5: Take space – being in a room full of family, being on your best behaviour and possibly travelling long distance creates stress! Take time out even if it is just a walk in the garden on your own or with your partner. A moment to connect with yourself and your centre re energises you.
Take time out – take a walk or go into the garden. Ten minutes personal space recharges you.
6: Avoid getting drunk or eating too much. Start of the day with something healthy. Balance alcohol with water to avoid dehydrating. Alcohol can cause emotional responses or bad temper.
Balance food and drink so your don’t feel grumpy and come over all bah humbug!
7: Xmas is hard to avoid what ever your belief system. If you come from a different religion or do not believe in Xmas let others enjoy it and accept we all have different beliefs.
Be tolerant – even if you don’t believe in Xmas, respect others rights to20do so.
May you have a fabulous time whatever you are doing. Sending loads of love
Michele
